I know it is so important to feel understood by your T. I have gotten stressed out about this many times. It feels like a pre-requisite to them giving you the empathy you crave.

And… here’s the But:

I mean impermanence is a fundamental existential truth, right? We are not permanent beings. Every relationship ends. There’s a lot of freedom in accepting that. What if your job here is not to learn that things are permanent but to accept that all we have is now... and become okay with that?

You are okay. You love people even though they may die or otherwise leave temporarily or permanently. You are building security within yourself even though the world is uncertain. It’s no use telling yourself that there is permanence and security; there isn’t. But there can still be trust and okayness.