thanks again, this has already taught me or at least reminded me of some important things.

i am so glad that for those whom it seems to fit, are not finding a lack of appropriate support or are not experiencing the stereotyping which i and many others have.

i have thought of some ways to approach/explain this issue much better thanks to your collective feedback, but since i am new and haven't yet figured out how to do things like find the `t warning' icon, and want to check my admitted tendency to `verbally' overwhelm people with different backgrounds i am gonna keep processing that a bit b4 i give it another shot.

meanwhile, and being very general, since i am new i wanted to explicitly state that deep down, i am seeking a `good' reason, ie. one i know fits the circumstances and known `facts', why i cannot seem to `wish' or `work' myself back to equilibrium, wrt basics like housing and safety, or avoid the tendency for people to react to safety issues i express with some comment implying my toilet training is somehow the `real' reason.

so, i realize the purpose of this forum is mainly support and very much appreciate that, but hope others don't feel i will be unduly wounded if you tell me i am wrong.

if i could `learn' how, for eg. my toilet training (using this as a euphemism for things nebulous and distant in time and space) has caused landlords to refuse to rent to me b/c of my service dog, or the ER doc to refuse appropriate care when i've been injured, blah blah, that would be SO MUCH easier to `fix' than the need to navigate a disbelieving and rather hostile, `community'.

oh happy day that would be! seriously.

now my hypothesis, given the feedback here becomes is a ptsd dx likely to be iatrogenic IF one's issues are rooting in current problems with safety?

thanks for listening and the support!