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Old Jul 13, 2021, 11:15 AM
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Originally Posted by Britedark View Post
Nobody cares how I am doing. They are asking out of politeness so I give them the sketchiest outline before I turn the spotlight on them. If they are genuinely interested they have the option of asking more questions. I keep an open body language. If they show no further interest, I don't hold it against them or judge them. I don’t show much interest in others' lives either. Maybe we can have a deep and meaningful about a specific topic. But generally asking about each other is more about social nicety than genuine interest, in my humble opinion. I do respect contrary opinions, though.
I absolutely agree with you and I’m the same way. I’ve been taught that people genuinely don’t care and only ask out of politeness. I agree that if they genuinely care then they will ask more questions, but even then some people may be just nosey and looking for reasons to gossip. But otherwise, I give them the bare basics and put the spotlight on them as well. I know it sounds harsh and I learned the hard way, but not everyone who asks, even friends or family, about how you are or what you are doing in your life, truly cares all the time.
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