I started seeing my T for an addiction. He has been in recovery for 15 years from alcohol. He tells me stories all the time. Whenever I say I wish I was normal, he says he's not normal either. We didn't come from normal families and we will never be normal. He had an uncle that committed suicide and his father threatened of it. He didn't start college until he was 25. He is 41 now and has 4 degrees.

He always tries to let me know there is always hope, it's never too late to start anything you want to do. I started taking piano lessons this year and I'm 48. He lets me know a lot of things are not my fault, it's because I'm from an abusive family and we can change that.

He does a lot of disclosure that is helpful for me. It really helps our relationship build.