No problem, it wasn't about my personal experiences, nor did I feel offended. It was just that I noticed the dissonance between your stated intentions and the used words. I totally believe that it is hard to find the words though that do not sound judgemental but I think it requires a mind shift - not thinking in terms of someone being too or not too dependent but rather thinking about what need this person has that they try to get met this way. And needs and feelings are ... well, they ever can't be too much or wrong or unhealthy - they just are and they are in some sense the truest truth.