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Originally Posted by BethRags
Well, he is really young, still in teen mode. His estrangement will, hopefully, be transitory. My daughter is 36 and estranged herself from me 2 years ago. She excels in academia, but imo her emotional maturity lags.
Regardless of age and reasons, the estrangement is viciously painful. I really have to work HARD to harden my heart. I feel like it's either that or go crazy and die too young from a broken heart. I constantly remind myself that it is my daughter's unresolved mental health issues that have caused her to behave toward me like she does. I do write letters to her every 6 weeks or so, but never condemning or critical. I remind myself that I am her mother, not her friend. We were so close prior to her dropping herself out of my life...I expect that she will come around eventually.
I am using this time to develop a closer relationship with my other child, my son. That's the silver lining to the darkest cloud.
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I think it shows your mothering skills and strength that you write letters to her every 6 weeks or so, but never condemning or critical.
I agree that it's her unresolved MH issues that have caused her to behave this way
