I recall the rest of your story with your wife vividly. Sorry, but your wife is and always has been very selfish in this relationship. This is no different than before. You’ve told her in the past that you need more intimacy. She said you’re going to get what you get from her and no more.. She doesn’t want to give to you or to accommodate your needs. Selfish. At this stage I would divorce her. **** that. Who needs to be treated so poorly after all you’ve done for her. You’re her doormat to vomit all over. You’ve given and you’ve given in this relationship with very little return. Divorce.