They met each other 5 days ago and he's telling her to get a facelift / lose weight? That is not right. To pressure one's partner to do those things at all is not ok in my book. He sounds weird. Of course, its nice someone is making your mom happy. But you can feel discomfort / outrage / and happiness for your mom all at the same time. You are wise to be concerned about her health and wellbeing with this guy.