Leomama - you may have to decide to make a clean break. Of course, he wants to keep being your bf. It sounds like there was no downside in it for him . . . . . except when you, in your heartless way, would fail to adequately acknowledge his mother. Remember: they're a package deal . . . a twofer the price of one. All the downsides you cite seem permanent. I don't think more time would change anything. It wasn't wrong to give it a shot. You had to go through what you experienced to discover what the deal is with this man. Now you know.

I see in threads often that members talk about trying to maintain a friendship with a former romantic partner, or loving someone else who is trying to do that. Nothing good seems to come of it. I don't say it's necessary to become enemies, or refuse to say hi when you pass the person. I do think it's best to fully disentangle and regard the person as you would someone you went to school with years ago. To continue confiding in one another is probably a real poor idea. I see where some choose to do that, which keeps an old wkund open and becomes an obstacle to finding a new sig. other, or just getting free of what's over.

I think I'll try to clean my kitchen. Why that has to seem so awful hard. How pathetic I am. So many people have so many heavy crosses to carry, and they do what life demands of them. If I don't try harder, I won't deserve anything nice to happen to me.