I had an experience like this last night. I told my friend that his comments in the past were very hurtful, so I was keeping some distance. He said he didn't mean it that way and he actually wanted to help out. I told him it made me feel like he was looking down on me and not really listening to what I say. He said next time I should tell him immediately if he makes me feel bad because he just talks too much and sometimes doesn't really think of what he says. It made me feel better to let him know he hurt me that I stopped crying and fell asleep right after that.