RDMercer

Firstly, can I say that I'm single and never experienced a situation like yours first hand. It's difficult to make any meaningful comments.

It may seem cruel to suggest that your wife actually wants a divorce and is not just saying it to upset you. Many years ago, I met a business associate whose wife had severe mental issues. He was lucky to have great professional support, where it was suggested that he file for divorce. He admitted it had been a very painful decision but ultimately the right one for himself and their three children.

Only you can decide, with or without professional help, whether you want to continue in this environment. Or, the frustration is too much to bear and you need to break out, to preserve your sanity. You still have a life to live.