My mother's attitude is that if she keeps mentioning a problem, like the one with my sister-in-law, she will eventually make me relent. For something I didn't do, no! Instead of accepting my aunt's advice to let it go, it's made the situation worse. Culminating in my distancing recently.

Size of my breasts has been subject of jokes from my mother and aunt (her sister). Stopped when I had the standard answer of "you're only jealous"! From my teens, I've tried to avoid undressing in her presence because she stares. Covers it by saying "we're all girls together". Maybe, but staring.....

Think my strong personality has emanated from her attitude. Thankfully, I have learned to "wind it in" when needed. Am not blaming any of this on pandemic.