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Originally Posted by Rive.
From what you wrote, it seems that you are not being met. She doesn't get back to you (or only seems to send superficial / meaningless content) while she has time to message other people. Likewise, she tells you you're ''very close'' but her actions don't support this statement.
As for: It is not selfish to want a mutual relationship and with more (equal) give and take. She doesn't seem to be there for you and even when you voice your concerns, you are *still* not being met. Instead, you are being dismissed. That is annoying at best and hurtful at most.
It seems like a disappointing, and rather painful, relationship and I would not consider that a 'true' friendship. It's up to you what you decide to do but I would not waste energy on someone who doesn't seem to reciprocate. Her actions don't match her words. And, in any relationship, that is not enough.
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Superficial content is exactly what is it. Like yes, social media posts are funny but it’s just not meaningful to a friendship when that’s all there is, especially since we haven’t met in person for a long time so all we have is texting (I don’t feel comfortable enough to ask her to call).
I guess the reason I feel selfish is because she said us being close is the reason why she doesn’t text me back, that she wanted to tell me she’s struggling, whereas with others she’s hiding her struggle. But still, she told me she was struggling then just went back to normal like nothing happened. It’s confusing.
This friendship has been painful for months now. It’s just felt so hot and cold with little communication on her part and me just feeling pushed to the side all the time. I’ve noticed that sometimes if I don’t text back for a day or two she spams me a bit and it makes me feel like it’s out of pity i don’t know. I turned her notifications off for a while because I was just sad and I wanted time to myself and it felt nice. I’m not going to feel guilty anymore for not being responsive to friends who are unresponsive to me.
Thanks roxanne
