For me, back when I saw my T for several years, he was the first therapist i literally obsessed about all day. I was so desperate for care, support and a father figure and he was all of those things and more.

I was very shy and didn’t talk much because I was so scared about what he would think, he was very relaxed with me contacting him between sessions if I felt I needed to, but said that he would t always be able to respond immediately. I accepted that, and at first didn’t contact him. But as the feelings grew strong, my emails and texts got more frequent. Eventually I couldn’t go a session without emailing him. They were always long, desperate emails , panicking that he wasn’t there, wouldn’t respond, would forget me etc etc.

It was so painful going through that- just absolute desperate for someone (him) to care and save me. He did care of course but could never give me what I thought he could. I would never change any of that though, because he showed me more love and support and care than I’ve ever had in my life. But yes I think it can be unhealthy if all your thoughts are centred around this person who can give you everything you need from them