In this specific case perhaps ask someone else to help you with the dog if possible? i am not sure if she'd approve but perhaps ask her. i think it is good to stand up for yourself if you can't do something. Unfortunately i don't have a lot of adice to give. Try to be kind but firm to her. Sending many Safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @Aviza, your Family, your Friends and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK?!