Oh my God! I can so relate to each and every post. I have a horrible relationship with both my parents. My mother never visited a psychiatrist or got herself tested but she exhibits many Cluster B behaviours. She has effectively ruined my life. I am not trying to avoid my own responsibility. I was a fool for years. I believed that my mother had my best interest in her heart and so I followed her advice blindly. I never realised that she was only manipulating me for her own end. She needed a slave to cater to her every need who would also earn a high salary and lay it all down at her feet. When I opened my eyes I found that I was in the wrong career, wrong relationship and the stress of everything combined had ruined my health. I had to go through years to therapy to undo the effect my mother had on me - the crippling psychological damage that she had inflicted since my childhood (which at that time I believed to be normal). I had to literally break myself apart and rebuild me piece by piece. I am still in touch with her and look after her but there is no emotional connection. My health is gone permanently. So congratulations to each and every one of you who have successfully managed to extricate yourselves from your abusive mothers at an early age. Congratulations to whoever managed to escape lasting physical and psychological damage. You guys are all heroes to me.