Dear Headlander71,

I am so sorry you are in the situation you describe. Wish I knew how to help.

A psychologists taught me something that he thought would help me. At the time, I thought it was a crazy idea but I have found that it helps me when I am suffering from the effects of trauma. He suggesting I try saying, "I love you" to myself over and over again, either our loud if alone or silently. I am amazed how comforting this it.

Of course, we are all different and what works for one person might not work for someone else or might make someone else feel worse. so I cannot offer advice. I can only share what helps me.

Hopefully many people will see your post and respond with better words than my poor words. I wish you only the very best. My heart goes out to you.

The effects of trauma can be so cruel and so long lasting.

Sincerely yours, Yao Wen