Hi! I agree with Rive. You are not selfish for expecting a deeper communication with your friend. But since you now live in different cities, perhaps she has gotten busy with new friends or new engagements. I'm sure you are also growing busy in your new environment. Instead of letting hurt feelings fester, why don’t you take a break from your friend? The beautiful part about friendship is that it can be revived even after years of silence. I used to have a very close friend but he cooled off after I changed cities. Consequently, I stopped contacting him. But this year he called me on my birthday and we had a wonderful, hour-long chat. I am sure your friendship is solid as well, but sometimes a little distance becomes necessary.