Many of the posts here are for marriages, GFs, divorce, etc. How about something else - here's what I'm faced with.

I've been talking with my T about trying to clear up a lifelong issue. I'm adopted. I'd like to find out more about my biological parents and siblings. Apparently, I was the 5th child of a couple who already had four kids and they couldn't afford another. In today's world, that would either end in abortion or who knows what. But I'm glad back in 1964, things went my way.

I was adopted to a generation-separated couple. Mom was 45, dad was 62 when I was born. He died of smoking-related illness when I was just over 6. So, instead of the larger biological family, I was raised an only child by a single-mom. Well, she's 88 now and still is able to live on her own and do well. She's an example of longevity but I don't see her more than say 1 week a year.

My current T and prior couples T both are adoption-oriented folks. Current T has a child from China. Couples T wrote a book on adoption and was adopted herself. Both want me to pursue contact with my bio-family. Seems a bit odd but could help me with personal issues.

Anyone ever contact a biological parent or family? I'd hate to be a shock or "problem" but I suspect it would be something they'd be ok with. I'm not wanting anything other than "closure" in knowing that I was given up with love.

A hitch that my couples T mentioned. What if I was not really my father's child but my mother got pregnant by someone else. You know "the milkman" or something like that. Could be a problem in that case.