I have to agree with you Riptide. Having worked in a voluntary/involuntary psych unit as a provider, I was forever amazed that I saw and experienced the same dysfunctions out on the floor with the patients as I did in the break room with the other docs, nurses, therapists, etc. I think it comes down to BOUNDARIES. If a provider is able to PROVIDE good care for their patient/client and keep their personal stuff out of the relationship, then rock on. If the boundaries break down and the therapist is not able to PROVIDE to the patient/client, then it's time for them to stop pretending and get help themselves. Btw, this should in no way be considered shameful for a mental health provider to get help for themselves. I think it is not only POSITIVE role modeling of self care, it additionally helps to reduce the stigma still associated with obtaining mental health care.

Best,
Okie