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Originally Posted by eskielover
Marriage dynamics are tough.
I was actually married to a very incompetent guy in many areas of life. Over the years I learned what he could & couldn't do. I let him do things when how he did it didn't matter....but there were some things I just didn't have the patience for because I would have to re-do some things & that was more work than if I just did it myself. When the outcome really didn't matter....he could have at it but when it actually effected me I had a say.
I have to admit, by the end of our marriage I had lost all patience with him & couldn't trust him to do anything. Sadly it got worse when I left & now I have had to get lawyers involved in the things he screw up.
Always 2 sides of a story. Would be interesting to know why your H reacts the way he does. Understanding his thinking might shed some light on why he is behaving that way
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Incompetence is far from the issue. He's a leader in his field and has been for nearly four decades. He's the guy they call when no one else can fix it. We are both electronic technicians. He also works on hydraulics and neumatics.
I'm trying real hard here not to wonder if you think I'm incompetent. That's okay. I know I'm not.
Yes, I may do things differently than most people and I'm fine with that. The job still gets done right.
What do you think he would say if you asked him? That I'm bats**t crazy? Yup. How about that my cognitive abilities are slowly fading? Yup. Extremely intelligent? Yup. The most scatterbrained? Yup. Or would you prefer to ask him yourself?