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Old Jul 25, 2021, 12:10 PM
Alive99 Alive99 is offline
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Originally Posted by ruby2011 View Post
I worked night shift yesterday and I usually work day shift. A guy in a wheelchair came in and it became clear shortly after that he didn’t need a wheelchair. He speed walked to our counter asking for sauces and he speed walked to the restroom.

My coworkers talked among themselves that he’s not really disabled and that he seriously needs to go. After a few exchanges like that, I joined in saying he’s not affecting us so it’s really not our business. One of them asked me to repeat myself, so I did. Then they told me to go do something cuz they weren’t talking to me.

Wtf! People can be unpredictable. Those same people were friendly at the beginning of my shift. They allowed me to join in all their other conversation that day, before the one about the “disabled” man. So much for joining a normal conversation. Maybe they feel strongly about kicking him out.

When I was in school and a few classmates talked about how hard an exam was, I said the exam was super easy. I breezed through it. One of them went, “that’s nice.” And went on talking.

It’s a hit and miss joining a conversation. Sometimes they let me in, sometimes they don’t.
My opinion on all this is that you can have conscious intent when chiming into convos. As to whether your goal is to fit in with the other people, or if it is to achieve something else, like stand up for/defend this other person, etc. If you are clear on your intent when engaging in a convo, that helps a lot with having your own agency and not having to rely on other people's goodwill all the time IMO.

Last edited by FooZe; Jul 25, 2021 at 04:17 PM. Reason: administrative edit (removed 2nd quote and discussion of it)
Thanks for this!
unaluna