So Sorry for your Losses and for what you're Going through! Please Do not give up! Hugs. i am afraid i must agree with the other wise and wonderful posters about this relationship not being good for your own child. i think it may be necessary to make him understand that this relationship can't continue this way. i'd say either tell him that he needs to change, perhaps even through therapy, or you need to leave. Please just try to stay Safe whatever decision you take. Also consider some shelters if that proves to be necessary as well as a lawyer if you do decide to go through divorce. Love. Be Strong. Sending many Safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @Harris82, your Family, your Friends and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK?!