@wildflowerchild25, you do what YOU want and feel is best for your upcoming wedding. It's your and RS's day. Not your grandmother's.

My husband and I made all of our own wedding-related choices, and we have no regrets. My wedding was quite different than my older sister's. Not that her's was bad, but my husband and I were at a stage in our lives when it made sense that we had control. My sister and her husband were barely 20 when they married. I was still young at 26 at mine, but had been independent since college. My husband had been married before, and was 38 on our wedding day. There were many people that went to my sister's wedding that weren't invited to mine. Thank goodness! Sure, my mom (and likely my grandmothers) would have liked me to have done a few things differently, but I didn't. And they got over it. Or if they didn't, that was THEIR issue. Not mine.