I'm not here to judge or defend my sister. This is not about the damn hedgehog. I'm not here to analyze how it was wrong for me to give my dad L's number (though now he has it in case of an emergency, so that's a good thing). I'm not even here to bash L. I'm here looking for help with help for the betrayal I feel because L picked up the phone and called my sister back without my written or verbal consent. I am not looking to get rid of L or report her to the board. I'm looking to work through this hurt. Why? Because I love her, I believe that she has good intentions, I have made a ton of progress with her, and I hope that we can learn from this and get stronger. Even trying to work through this is improvement for me. I'm trying to hold the both/and, trying to see the grey, trying to allow for errors.

I'm looking for help getting from where I'm at now to healing and rebuilding trust. If your motive is anything else like I mentioned, please don't post. I'm looking for support; not an argument.