View Single Post
 
Old Jul 28, 2021, 09:43 AM
ScarletPimpernel's Avatar
ScarletPimpernel ScarletPimpernel is offline
Wise Elder
 
Member Since: Nov 2013
Location: US
Posts: 9,031
Quote:
Originally Posted by atisketatasket View Post
Scarlet, I think you’ve been here before with ruptures and betrayals from therapists at least; can you look back on those past experiences and recall what got you through?

The other thing I would say is realize that your thinking is pretty black and white. Yeah, it hurts, but you go from 0 to 60 when you say you can’t trust L anymore. Your relationship isn’t based on the last thing she did; it’s based on everything she’s done over time. And if you reflect on that you might see this incident in context and conclude that she is trustworthy and that this was a mistake the two of you can move on from.
I think that's one of the reasons I want to work things out with L. 1. I don't want to throw a good 2 year relationship away. 2. It was a mistake; albeit a big one. 3. I know she had good intentions and didn't mean to hurt me. 4. I normally would trash a relationship after one rupture, but instead, I'm trying to work through it.
__________________
"Odium became your opium..." ~Epica
Hugs from:
LonesomeTonight, Waterbear
Thanks for this!
*Beth*, Quietmind 2