BorisTheAnimal, absolutely not!

It's a very difficult situation. Generalising, some people can care for elderly relatives, others not. Have a cousin who is now wheelchair bound after two strokes. One son is quite happy to attend to her "personal needs", the other admits he just can't do it. Does she love him any less; no!

Elderly parents often have the view that they had a family to take care of them later in life. Doing your duty, in other words. The harsh way of looking at this could be what duty? You didn't ask to be born.

You've mentioned your father is elderly; he's from a generation that expects this. I can totally relate to what you are saying.