Yes, you have handled this well. To me, forgiveness is something I do for myself. It is a reaching of that place where I choose to not let the anger or hurt or resentment have a hold over my life. That doesn’t require excusing the behavior and it’s certainly not condoning it. I’ve forgiven some monsters in my life. I can choose to move beyond what they did, even if they refuse to take responsibility - even if they are dead - because forgiveness is about me choosing to not let that person or history or event keep me bound up in emotions that are so devastating to me that I get stuck. It takes their power away over my life and my sense of self, and it allows me to move forward. That doesn’t mean I forget either - who can do that anyway? But with time and distance from the situation, the emotions have room to breathe and slow down and become less intense. And at some point I realize I can think about that person or event just as a recall rather than an emotionally charged memory.