I actually recognized this in myself - I was playing games with her, not here though, it's an anonymous forum - why would I do that?

This is why I chose to tell her about my reaction, I do feel like by not telling her directly I could lead her into sensual situations that she wouldn't "allow" if she knew I was having this attraction. Unfortunately, we never delved into this subject again and didn't really work through it in the "now". My attraction to her is slowly fading away which is good I guess.

I know how these all sound, and I actually had a couple more weird/sensual moments after it that I don't know how to process, but I won't be sharing them here because I sensed a tone of judgement from your comment and another one above, and I came here for support, not that. I know I should discuss these things with her directly but I feel like talking about them online helps me sort out what to focus on - I'm not here to play games with people I don't know.