Hi, I've come to learn about & understand a lot regarding my orientation & identity. I've been doing inner work & healing. Initially regarding abuse & trauma, but it's helped me in other ways as well. Just from what you described, I would say you're gender fluid. You can be more one or the other, sometimes both or neither. I'm also bio female & I used to consider myself gender fluid, but now I classify myself as agender. Not identifying as either. There's also third gender. Something other than female or male.

As for your orientation. A person can be one way romantically & something else sexually. I'm a demi for romantic or more precisely affectionate. I'm more about friendship & strong intellectual & emotional connections. I still have urges, a little bit. So I'm not full Ace. I'm a Grace. I have desires, just limited.

I wish I knew all of this years ago. I probably wouldn't have gotten married (I'm now divorced). Though, a big reason for that was because I was still in traditional mode when I met my now ex. It was due to a religious upbringing. I hope some of what I shared is helpful. If you have any questions, please do ask & I'll do my best to answer.