So Sorry for what you're going through! Please Do not give up! Hugs. i am not Married myself. i think it is hard for me to give advice without fully knowing your situation but joining a singles group is definitely fishy as that would mean that he may actually be interested in cheating? i am not sure. i'd suggest to confront him about this, if you can and want to. If you don't mind sharing what else has he done to make you doubt your Marriage? i think it may be a good idea to make a pro/con list about staying or leaving. Also looking for a job may prove helpful as at least you'd be indipendend and be able to make your own decisions i think. So Sorry you have to put up with this. i Hope things will improve really soon for everyone. Do you have any kids? Much Love. Sending many Safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @Werewoman, your Family, your Friends and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK?!