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Originally Posted by Werewoman
I am so done with him but I need him. I have to be driven to my Ketamine appointments, I'm not allowed to drive. For good reason. I don't have anyone else. He provides the food and the shelter and all that goes with it. I am 100% disabled. I get a small check from SSI every month. It pays my medical bills. I can't live off of it though.
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I am surprised that no one has really addressed this paragraph. Is he aware that you feel this way about him? I mean, essentially he is a meal ticket and taxi service. What does he get out of the relationship? I guess it sort of stuck a nerve with me, because I had an ex like that. It is one of the main reasons why he is an ex. I got sick of feeling like I was being used.
It sounds like your only option is to stick it out until you can find a way to support yourself. What would you do if he left you? You would have to find some way to survive.
I agree with the previous comment that you should try to bring it up at a moment when you are calm to keep things from getting too confrontational.
I have been married 12 years and I'd have to disagree with your statement that, "marriage is more about what you can tolerate than anything else." I certainly don't feel that way about my husband. We actually enjoy being married to each other.