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Originally Posted by divine1966
I am sorry. It’s a dilemma. I’d proceed with caution and try to find out what kind of group is it and what’s his goal in joining such a group. Is it for dating and finding intimate partners or is it for activities he enjoys and it’s just happens to be singles group? I have a married friend who belongs to singles biking and hiking group. Her husband wouldn’t bike and hike so the only good hiking group is singles group.
I remember in the past he had a problem with some of your activities. Talk to him first. Of course he might lie but ask him to show you what messages are exchanged in the group. It might be innocent
Also when you think of it you’ve had feelings for other people in the course of the marriage and I recall you reported you actually fell in love with one of your submissive or something. Your husband didn’t leave you but he requested you stop it or something like that. I know you didn't consider it cheating but he likely doesn’t consider joining singles groups cheating either (and technically just joining a group isn’t probably cheating).
So is the issue him being secretive and hiding that he is married or is it him joining singles group? Bottom line talk to him first and see what he has to say
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Correction. HE said my friend and I were in love. That was never true. I think he doesn't like her because she's transgender. She's still my friend. I never gave in no matter how jealous he got because there was nothing to be jealous about. He said I talked to her more than him. I can't answer to that one because I never kept track of exactly how much time each day I spent talking with each of them. I thought that to be ridiculous.
The issue is both. Bottom line, his profile reads like he's a single man looking for a good time.
Yeah I know what a walking effed up disaster I am. I know how hard I am to live with and I've never found a med that controls my overly extreme emotions. I know he's sick to death of dealing with it after 20 years.
Just if you want to replace me, have the common decency to tell me before you go looking.