(((((((((((((((( debbie )))))))))))))))))))) that's hard. my mother was a depressed, complacent, histrionic mother. in other words, she was cold...very...unless she was being a drama queen or demanding attention for herself. i grew up giving her that attn just to get a crumb for myself from her. she turned her head to the absues in our home.

as an adult, i realize that she is/was ill. that little girl still hurts though and wants what she'll never get from her "moma". i understand.