@whatever2013 I see your point. I have a long-term email/penpal- since 2003ish- and we are very close. We share our lives through these emails and have gotten to know each other well. We have not met but hope to one day. There are no illusions of becoming more than deep friends. He has a partner (both are eunuchs) and it's all good. What we have is special and I am so glad to have him in my life.