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Old Aug 05, 2021, 01:48 PM
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Originally Posted by Soupe du jour View Post
I finally managed to get an appointment with a new therapist. It's a month from now, but that's OK. This time it's a male, which I'm totally fine with. I need someone to talk to ALONE. I've been seeing my psychiatrist with my husband in the room, each time. Perhaps even that will soon change. I hope.

I think Hubby and I truly need some time away from each other. At the very least, in separate rooms. We've been fighting lately. He always seems to be in distress. I've been working hard to support him and cheer him up, but it's gotten to be too much. I, myself, could use more support, yet I'm not getting any. He said something extremely infuriating yesterday. What he beeeches about me sounds a lot like what he criticizes his sister for doing to him. Like brother like sister. We have trips ahead of us and I already sort of dread them.

I do really need someone to talk to about these things. I can't talk to my sister-in-law about my husband. My sister, as much as I love her, is not the best confidant,especially since my b-i-l is always eavesdropping.
My heart breaks for you.

Is your husband in the room for your Pdoc appts due to a language issue? Honesty I cant imagine my husband being with me to a Pdoc appt. Im glad your set up with a T I hate that its a month wait. You do need to be able to just dump everything out of your head and know that its a safe place to do so.

I would move to another room. You really need some alone time to do what you want to, sleep, read, etc. Can you go buy some groceries that wont require you to cook daily.. Like stuff for sandwiches or whatever.. Something that your husband can just make himself.. He's not giving you the support and help you need. No way could I continue to feed him actual meals.

Take care of YOU
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Thanks for this!
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