I get creeped out when therapists do that kind of stuff. My last therapist was always talking about how handsome I was and how deep my voice was and commenting on other parts of my body and it was just creepy. She would also do sessions with her eyes closed which was weird. She asked me one time about what I “fantasied” about when I did you know. And her question disturbed me. She wanted to look up my other therapist online because I had told her I found her attractive. I panicked when she started to turn on her computer and told her no that would be way too triggering. I’m really sensitive though to strange people so I told my Pdoc about her to get a second opinion and he told me to stop seeing her ASAP, and she was very unprofessional and he thought she had traumatized me. He was more freaked out about the situation then I was actually.

With my current T I respect her boundaries, and she respects mine. She lets me email her but I ask before the session ends if I can about specific things that are coming up between sessions. One time she asked me to email her about something. The email situation is no where near like it was with my transference T.

My whole therapy situation with this T isn’t like the one with my transference T.