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Originally Posted by divine1966
I think besides that there is another issue of him claiming that he was abused by his ex wife, she beat him up and he was mistreated and now all of a sudden they are so chummy. If I told my husband that I was abused by a man, but then I was all friendly with an abuser, my husband would be concerned.
This guy either lied about abuse in his past marriage or something else is going on here.
In addition hope’s husband is not trustworthy, he is known to lie. He is known to be too chummy with women including exchanging romantic messages. I’d not trust him to be just friendly with ex. Not saying something fishy is happening but emotional infidelity might be taking place. I’d not be surprised if they are that friendly, he likely discussed marital problems that he has with hope. I’d not trust this man at all. Not at this point.
You are referring to a normal situation being friendly with exes when people all get along and can trust each other. This situation isn’t normal whatsoever.
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I trust him now far better than I have. I know he is sincere in his feelings towards me and that he is sincere in his commitment to me at this stage. That was a bad period we went through. He was in the wrong, for certain, but we seem to have gotten past that hump, for the most part. My mistrust in this situation is not of HIM but of HER. I think she still has feelings for him, or wants some level of connection to him and hasn't yet let go. It's evident in all her actions. Not once has he reached out to her to just say "happy thanksgiving" or "happy birthday". He only has reached out or has initiated contact about her breast cancer and nothing more. I believe him when he says she has hit him in the past and I believe that she was verbally abusive - but so was he. He has been towards me, so I am sure he was towards her, too. He forgives. He has forgiven me for saying horrible things to him in the heat of the moment. I understand forgiveness too. I forgave my abusive ex just before he died. It happens. I think in this case with his ex, she doesn't want to let go of him entirely. And it shows. So SHE'S the one I don't trust. He promises to the heavens above that he will never hurt me again. And I believe him this time.