Dear CrazyGracie,

I am so terribly sorry that you and your kids are in the heartbreaking situation you mention. It must be a so awful and distressing to you. I wish I knew what to say to ease your pain and grief or be helpful. Hopefully this site will prove helpful to you. I grew up in a situation similar to the one you describe, so my heart goes out to you!

Sincerely yours, Yao Wen