As my anger failed to subside over T being angry at me, I desperately sought out the help of my Pdoc. He told me that my T was probably really shaken by what had happened because it was his first time having this happen. I did not know this. So, it is understandable that a feeling of fear/helplessness turned into anger. I wish he had told me that then, though.

<font color="green"> Here's an interesting conversation: </font>

<font color="blue"> Me: "So, does your wife still hate me for what I did?" </font>

<font color="#880000"> T: "You just skipped over a boundary. </font>

<font color="blue"> Me: (I was speechless) </font>

<font color="green"> ***So, T asked me another unrelated question and I answered it quickly. </font>

<font color="#880000"> T: "Did you feel rebuffed by my comment?" </font>

<font color="blue"> Me: "Yes, I did!" </font>

<font color="#880000"> T: "I haven't invited you into my living room. We talk about your husband because you've invited me." </font>

<font color="blue"> Me: "I don't want to be in your living room [okay, so I lied]! You put me there by talking about me with your wife. I don't ever want you to talk to her or anyone about me outside of this office (or something like that)." </font>

<font color="green"> AND FOR THE GRAND FINALE:</font>

<font color="blue"> Me: "AND THAT IS MY BOUNDARY!" </font>

<font color="green"> So, I looked up at T wondering how he was going to react. He had a look on his face, a look that said that he was proud of me </font>

<font color="#880000"> T: "Okay, fair enough." </font>

Wow. That was really strange. But it felt good to say it. I think that my T loved it