I am so confused. I have a close friend..well a close ex-friend. We where so close..and now I dislike him so much. I guess there is a need for background information so I will give some. Me and this ex-friend..who's name is Cody where extremely close. After he graduated last year he moved to west mephis with his cousin and was working a really good job and about to start school. Then he met this girl who is bad news all over the place. After he met this girl he quit his job, moved from West Memphis and has yet to go to school. I saw him yesterday at graduation..he looks horrible..I know he is doing drugs and drinking all the time. They both look so guant and sick. My mom talked to me about it and said I was a horrible friend for not caring anymore..that I should do something.

Is she right? I can't save someone that doesn't want to be saved!! I can't help someone who repadeltly removes me from their lives and then shows up ever 3 months or so and tells me what a great friend I am and then disapears without saying anything!! I'm tired of being burned and hurt by him and I'm tired of trying to fix him. Plus I don't want to be around that stuff..and he gets mad at me for not coming and seeing him or staying with him and his roommates when he calls and invites me over. I wouldn't want to hang out with him or stay with him and his roommates for a multitude of reasons. Plus hanging out with him could get me in big trouble with the law..and compromise my dreams of being a police officer.

I feel horrible but so apathatic at the same time. Am I horrible friend for not wanting to stay in touch or to try and tell him what he is doing is deystroing his life?? I would do it for another friend..my best friend who is like a sister to me..but I won't for him..why?? Should I feel bad about it?? I don't know and I wanted someones opinon..I am so confused!!