The Five Love Languages are:
<ul type="square"> [*]Quality Time [*]Words of Affirmation [*]Gifts [*]Acts of Service [*]Physical Touch [/list]
I highly reccomend this book. They do have a book-on-CD version as well, and a Men's Edition.

One thing they say is that a person can "speak" one language to their loved ones, but "hear" a different language. For example, he may do Acts of Service to show his love for me, but he only thinks I love him if I give him Words of Affirmation or Quality Time, or some other language. Or, he could 'speak' and 'hear' the same language.

There is even a similar book on love languages for children. And now that I think about it, that may be one reason why I never felt loved by my parents as a child - they spoke the wrong 'love language' to me. They rarely hugged us, and my language is physical touch. And whenever I get my family a nice, slightly-expensive gift, rather than them appreciating the effort, I get teased by my mom that I spend too much money and I'm spoiling everyone. When in fact, gift-giving is one way that I really enjoy showing my love. It's not about the cost, it's about getting the person something they like. But my parents just don't understand that.

And I think that I 'speak' in physical touch and gift-giving, but I 'hear' more of the "Words of Affirmation" language maybe. It really makes my day when someone compliments me in any way. And I get upset when my husband doesn't notice something like my weight loss or new haircut and say "you look nice."

Anyway, I think I may ask my psych nurse again about marriage counseling. She mentioned it last week, and said she could provide that even though I'm already a client. I wasn't sure. Should I use her for marital counseling AND medication management? Or maybe find someone else for the marriage counseling? I did see one in the phone book that listed sexual issues as a specialty - should I try her?

I do think that one of the problems is that I make more money and have more education than my husband does. I have tried countless times to help him realize that I really respect him as a loving father, and it does not bother me that I have to work. But I wonder if this is a huge issue for him, feeling like he's not providing for the family. I don't know how to help him realize that I would love him no matter what job he has.

He is actually downstairs doing the dishes as I speak. I went to the store to buy flowers, and while I was gone he did the dishes. I am now upstairs, should be studying, but drifted online again. I think tomorrow I will try to clean the floors and straighten up our paperwork on the house while he's at work. Maybe make him a nice steak dinner on the grill. And then spend the evening with him, rather than studying upstairs. I can study later that week, but if 'quality time' is his language, I need to put that in priority too.

And one more thing - I am going to ask our regular babysitter if she would mind watching our little girl maybe one night a week, or every-other week. We need to go on more "date nights" together, without our 2 year old. Even if all we do is walk to the lake and watch the sunset - we need some quality time together.