Soliaree, I love how you set your boundary with him. So firm. So strong. What great practice for outside the office too.

I wasn't sure about this part of the exchange:
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<font color="blue"> Me: "So, does your wife still hate me for what I did?" </font>

<font color="#880000"> T: "You just skipped over a boundary. </font>

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I don't get the part about his wife hating you. For what? He has previously told you his wife hates you? Wow, just wow. And what boundary did you skip over? I don't see any. Apparently, he has told you on a previous occasion that his wife hates you. And you are following up on that. I don't see a boundary that has been broken here. If he tells you stuff like his wife hates you then he can certainly expect you to return to that conversation if you choose. I also do not see at all how it is therapeutic for him to tell you his wife hates you. I think he made a big goof here. Sounds like your being so firm with him on your boundary may help get him back on track. (Sheeesh, who's the therapist here?)