What makes it hard is that he is 84 years old and really can't be left alone anymore. Problem is if my brother and I remain there our lives will be destroyed. How do you get past the imposing guilt that will come from this? Even though in reality we shouldn't have any guilt because he's very selfish and controlling. And he won't leave you alone if you are in the house, "get me this" "do this for me" "me me me me me me"