BorisTheAnimal, please don't surrender your independence.

He wants you to "figure out" what to do for him. When you do, then he'll be even more manipulative. The list will become never-ending. He's trying to take over your and your brother's lives.

As I mentioned when you posted before, nothing you do will be right. My mother said on at least two occasions " I appreciate what you do for me but..." It's a big word for so few letters! Not surprised that my brother hasn't contacted me. Believes everything she says about me. Must be very frustrating for her that she can no longer use me as a punchbag (not literally!). Thinking back to various events, I've allowed myself to be manipulated and only now do I have the courage to say enough is enough.