ill second whats been said soli... totally.

i can understand him telling his wife... so long as it wasn't telling her who it was. i mean, all in all, it must have been upsetting and he probably needed the personal support and understanding too. If i was shaken i would tell my spouse why. What he %#@&#! up on though was telling you he did it... that is anger, from him toward you and it's a tad passive-aggressive. That was where he fell on his face.

but we all do, right?

yeah, he pretty much set up a TV tray for you. i mean, if i ask my T about his trip to NYC, he cant really blame me - he told me he was going, right?

but you're right, about what you said last night, best not to dwell too hard on him messing up... that just widens any gap created.

i think his "fair enough comment" (with associated "look") is a reasonable patch to the goof. i think it's probably the only sort of concession he'll make on it. He will want to be more firm for a while i think... but i would bet he is definitely thinking hard about how to do that and still give you the care that you need.

and remember... if he didnt truly care, he'd be indifferent, right?

just remember where the boundary is (hahahahahahaha... sorry, inside joke)