It is when we seek to be held, that others face their own years of tears of not being held themselves,

try to take some comfort in the "humility of that silent and alone self, that at least has released another from theirs, in the hope that that relative "freeing" will give strength to your friend to come back again ,so at least you can then hold each other, and only then we can find the courage and strength and LOVE to hold the other [YOU!] through your tired but worthwhile journey.

love -[ we should have the courage to use that word a little more by the way! ]

Alevin