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You people will just never get it.

2) What is so wrong with admitting you're only human and at least giving me the benefit of the doubt when I say looks are THE determining factor of whether or not two people are attracted?

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The phrase, "you people" is probably the fastest way to get people upset, IG. It makes me seethe just reading it. It's like looking at someone who is unemployed and saying, "You people are just lazy." Talk about a generalized insult!

I disagree with much of what you said...but #2 the most. Yes, I agree looks have some impact on FIRST IMPRESSIONS. That being said, my husband could look like....like the Phantom of the Opera (to use an example previously given) and I would love him.
I DON'T CARE WHAT HE LOOKS LIKE!

I think Angie is a beautiful person because of how she treats others. I think SeptemberMorn is a beautiful person because she loves her children and will fight to the death for them. I think LMo is a beautiful person because she cared enough about her husband to stick by him when things were rough.

I could go on all evening...I suspect you haven't bothered to check my post in the Kudos entitled "PsychCentral Warm Fuzzies..." Be cynical and jaded all you like, but do not attempt to make me see your belief. I agree that SOME people are exactly what you say, petty and shallow. But I refuse to make a wide sweeping generalization to say "everyone" is like that.

I've met too many people who have looked beyond my physical appearance to my heart to see the person I truly am. If others choose to judge me based on what I look like, that is one less person I have to deal with. True friends love you not in spite of your shortcomings, but because of them.

I do hope you consider at least consulting a therapist about these feelings.