I finally sent Ben a text after no contact of 9 days because I talked about me and his situation in class and a classmate gave me a different perspective. They said they maybe said all that stuff to there mum as they wanted the friendship to be a serious relationship. I mean Ben has said he loved me in the past and said he wanted a relationship with me. I also talked about this to mum and she said as long as we were friends he'd never give up on trying to make me his girlfriend. I said that I thought he would eventually 'get over it'. Mum provided me an example of my auntie who had a guy who liked her who didn't give up on trying to date her for twenty years. In that respect I hope that he doesn't hold on that long as that would be sad for both of us.

In the text message I said:
"Hey Ben I'm just at Tafe I took sometime to think about our friendship and how I felt about you telling your mum things. I felt like I needed to think about what I wanted in life. I feel like we could continue on as a casual friendship. Though I'm probably not up to hang out a lot yet as I'm still quite busy and overwhelmed with things".