@black-roses

I totally hear you. It sounds like you're dealing with the whole thing in as healthy way as you can, really. You're being honest with him without being hurtful and that's very thoughtful, given how you feel about him and what happened.

I'm the same in some ways; never quite sure if feeling angry about something is justified. But all I know is that they're my real emotions and that it's really how I feel, so, that's it. Trying not to put anger back onto the other person can be a mental challenge, though, and some people don't seem to get angry at all which must be nice. But being a sensitive person I feel it quite deeply and it's best if I not pretend I'm okay about something when I'm not, as well.

I think you're taking a good approach black-roses, you sound like someone who knows what they're doing.

In the end, once Ben has drifted into the shadows of time, you'll be able to look back and laugh about the whole thing, I believe.😁👍